Monday, June 25, 2012
Excerpt of the Day: "The Fatigue Prescription" by Linda Hawes Clever, MD
Tuesday, May 22, 2012
Read with your ears:
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Monday, May 9, 2011
Some radical common sense about the way we live:
Fight Fatigue and Up Your Energy -- But Not By Finding Balance
If you’re tired of feeling tired all the time (both physically and mentally), as well as particularly stressed out with no energy level to speak of, I may just have the answer for you. Or rather, Linda Hawes Clever, M.D., author of the new book The Fatigue Prescription: Four Steps to Renewing Your Energy, Healthy, and Life may just have the answer for you. (And guess what? The answer is not balance!) This book is no pretentious meditation on the concept of fatigue: It’s a practical, no-nonsense guide filled with concrete tips on how to make your life better. And what could be better than that? (Besides feeling less fatigued, of course, and Dr. Clever also helps us with that dilemma.) The Fatigue Prescription is an interactive workbook both because of the way it’s laid out, and because I’m in the process of making it work for me. You should, too. But in the meantime, check out my Q&A with Dr. Clever about some of the finer points in her book:
Something you say on page 61 of “The Fatigue Prescription” literally stopped me in my tracks: “If your goal is to overcome fatigue, balance is not your ticket.” Whoa. This contradicts everything I’ve ever thought, read, or been taught about balance, which is that it’s something for which we should all strive. (But your take sounds oddly liberating.) So why shouldn’t balance shouldn’t be our ultimate life goal?
It’s not that I’m opposed to balance. It’s useful for easier living, yet it isn’t enough for whole and healthy living. I believe that balance is too difficult, too temporary, and often is someone else’s definition. Just watch a baby learning how to walk or an elderly person re-learning how to walk after a stroke. It’s hard. Whether walking, bicycling, or juggling many activities and priorities, finding balance is fleeting at best. It seems as if we snag a bit of time from one place—work—and slap it onto another place—say, a teacher’s meeting. That’s a very temporary solution and not at all satisfying. Also, who’s to say what the right “balance” is? Your neighbor? A friend (with household help and a nanny)? Your classmate? Balance isn’t a concept to get hung up on or to have as your ultimate goal. When you know your values, on the other hand, you can choose to live them, to set priorities based on them, to allot time according to them. This is good, solid ground — not shadowy, evanescent “balance.”
What roles do fear, anger, and not being able to let go of the past play in our overall level of fatigue?
Fear can be useful. It can get you out of trouble in a hurry, for example. Chronic fear, however, is paralyzing. Your body just isn’t meant to be fearful all of the time. Your body pressure, appetite, and even your muscles suffer (the latter because they may be tensed too much). Plus, you can’t always think clearly. This can lead to costly mistakes and impaired judgment, and those are exhausting. Being aware that you’re angry also can be helpful. Then you can re-use or re-direct the anger toward developing a constructive solution. Chronic anger or recurring anger can affect your body and blur judgment, just as fear can, as many have discovered. That’s tiring. Being able to “let go” is necessary for you to refill your energy bucket, clear your vision, regain your creativity, and move ahead. Not letting go means that you’re tired, unable to see and do new things with vitality, and immobilized. That can only bring you down.
Do people really need to have hobbies in order to be happy and healthy?
Not to duck the question, but it depends on how you define “hobby.” Many people consider a hobby something to do with your hands, as in a craft (quilting, painting) or collection (stamps, electric trains). I would be much more generous with the definition. A hobby is something that you find fun, engrossing, or expanding: Reading, biking, taking a course in Portuguese or Eritrean cuisine, or visiting all of the national parks. Part of your work could even be a hobby—learning a new program or specialty or becoming the company archivist. The point is, if you stop learning, you die. Also, all work and no play make you dull, sad, and, often, stuck. Whatever you call it, broaden your horizons and increase your zest with “hobbies.”
Can or should a person ever try to change their partner’s “bad” habits (slumped posture, bad breath, fear of going to the doctor, etc.) whether or not the partner is resistant to such change?
I can’t imagine anything more fruitless than trying to change a partner—unless the partner wants to change. (And the change would be for the partner’s sake, not yours.) Now, if you want to suffer, get at least two people irritated and grumpy, and enhance any existing passive-aggressiveness, then go for it. You might try, of course, to scatter some educational material around the house; enlist the help of friends, relatives, and a physician or dentist (I’m referring to the bad breath); and otherwise try to tip the scales. But the fact is, the only things you can control are your own behavior, your own attitude, and your own aspirations. On a good day. And on a very good day, you may influence your partner to change a behavior. A very, very good day.
Linda Hawes Clever, M.D., MACP, founder and president of the not-for-profit RENEW and Associate Dean for Alumni Affairs at Stanford University Medical School, is the author of the new book The Fatigue Prescription: Four Steps to Renewing Your Energy, Health, and Life. She received undergraduate and medical degrees from Stanford University. After interning at Stanford, she had several years of medical residency and fellowships at Stanford and the University of California, San Francisco. Dr. Clever is Board certified in Internal Medicine and Occupational Medicine.
Dr. Clever’s personal and professional interests center on health, “renewal” (the ever-necessary process of refreshing values, goals, and energy), leadership, building community, and the interactions of lives, health, and work.
Dr. Clever has been a pioneer in the care of immigrants and other low-income patients, training of nurse practitioners, humane treatment of AIDS patients in the workplace, and occupational health. She has led national, regional, and local medical and voluntary organizations and has written scores of papers, chapters, and editorials for medical journals, books, and newspapers.
Thursday, July 29, 2010
if you are 'tired of being tired," this is for you!
I've had the following conversation with my mother more times than I could count:
"How ya doing?"
"Tired, but what else is new?"
This exchange has gone both ways & has been repeated for years, which is why I was intrigued when I heard about The Fatigue Prescription, a new (work)book by Dr. Linda Hawes Clever. While I was initially skeptical of a book about fatigue by a Dr. Clever (yes, it's her real name, & yes, she's a real doctor) - I was waiting for it to culminate with, "Buy my magic vitamin herbal supplement!" - the book really delivered.
I admit that I was unable to work through the exercises because of the deadline I was on to get this up (curing fatigue just worked so well with our self-care theme this month!), I found the book to be really eye-opening. Dr. Clever goes beyond, "Eat veggies, exercise, sleep" to allow you to check-in on your relationships, your energy, your attitude, your likes, your dislikes, etc. She offers fascinating insights that had me exclaiming, "Wow!" out loud like a crazy person. One example: people over 50 who viewed aging optimistically lived an average of 7.5 years longer than those who viewed it negatively (what?!). Another example: the Latin root of the word "encourage" comes from "en = in" & "cor = heart", so when someone encourages you, they're putting their heart into yours. Right?!
Here's a smattering of the viewpoints she gives that really resonated with me:
- "If your goal is to overcome fatigue, balance is not your ticket.(...) balance falsely implies a best way. The trouble is, the definition of 'best' is always changing."
- "Taking a chance isn't necessarily a sudden event."
- "When everything is a priority, nothing is a priority."
- "(...) you will need to set priorities not only about what you do, but how well you do it." (Reminds me of Jess Larson's wonderful video from last week!)
- "...happiness is an attitude." (I actually wrote "Whoa!" in my highlighter above that one!)
This really is a book that takes the best of doctor-speak and the best of life coaching-like questions & exercises to allow the reader to discover their own personal Fatigue Prescription. I'm definitely planning to dive in to some of the exercises myself, but you gotta really be in it to win it (translation: devote some real time & thought) to find out your very own Fatigue Prescription. I have a feeling the result would be worth it, no magic vitamin herbal supplement necessary.
And wanna hear the best part? We're able to give away a copy of the book right here on Spring! Leave a comment below about what's part of your Fatigue Prescription by next Thurs, Aug 5th at noon Eastern & we'll announce the winner right here on the 6th! If you can't wait that long, then you can order The Fatigue Prescription on Amazon or pick it up at your local bookstore. It's time to stop telling your mother you're tired & do something about it already!
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Are you tired of being tired? me, too!
LINDA HAWES CLEVER, MD
You’re probably a very busy person — one who may feel over-whelmed and stressed and bent out of shape because of your demanding lifestyle. For many Americans, it seems our daily cyclic movements have us dragging our feet from Point A to Point B, and often times we never even make it to that seemingly distant Point C. We’re a brutally busy lot. Soon enough, we find ourselves beaten down physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Well, as good news has it, there is a manageable prescription for our cyclic fatigues. The only problem is that many of us are so busy we may (as per our usual routine) still unwisely choose to close our ears to its wisdom. The recommendation I’m referring to is Dr. Linda Hawes Clever’s new book The Fatigue Prescription: Four Steps to Renewing Your Energy, Health and Life. Rather than inundate the reader with over-the-top intellectual jargon or patronizing, lecture-style ramblings, Dr. Clever pleasantly guides you through four basic steps to renewing your daily life: (1) Awareness (2) Reflection (3) Conversation and (4) Plan-and-Act. It’s an easy and highly worthwhile read. It’s more than self-help — it’s self-health! Dr. Clever is merely the moderator. You are the one who will empower your life and change it for the better, a more healthy and relaxed better.
And if time is available, come and check out Dr. Linda Hawes Clever on her Bay Area book tour promoting The Fatigue Prescription. Let’s break those daily cyclic movements that breed apathy and dreary living. It’s in our best interest to do so.
BAY AREA BOOK TOUR:
3/8/2010 SF Library: Sunset Branch,
3/10/2010 Pharmaca:
3/11/2010 Ink Spell:
3/13/2010 Pharmaca:
4/1/2010 East West Bookstore:
4/12/2010 Borders:
4/16/2010 Pharmaca:
4/3/2010 Pharmaca:
4/6/2010 Copperfield’s Books:
4/12/2010 Borders:
4/14/2010 Gateways:
4/15/2010 Metropolitan Club:
4/15/2010
4/16/2010 Pharmaca:
4/17/2010 Borders:
5/11/2010 Center for Excellence in Nonprofits:
The Fatigue Prescription: Four Steps to Renewing Your Energy, Health and Life by Linda Hawes Clever, MD
Viva Editions, February 9th, 2010, 288 pages, paper trade
ISBN 978-1-57344-380-7, $16.95 (